And so this is Christmas.
And I want to know: Are you a martyr? Do you take care of everything so no-one else needs to? Are you over it? Fed up? Angry? Resentful?
Stereotypical martyrs devote themselves to causes they think are admirable. The causes – and their beliefs about them – are more important than their own wants and needs.
It’s time to smash the stereotype wide open with a hammer. And I reckon Christmas is the perfect occasion. This time of the year is when martyrs bolt out of the gate with aplomb, preparing lunches, dinners, parties, presents…
Being a martyr is a way of escaping the stress, indecision and responsibility that come from being in charge of your own life.
To stop being a martyr, you need to:
- Start making choices to escape situations that aren’t meeting your needs
- Speak powerfully to communicate those choices
I made something for you. It’s a three-part Christmas Talk Tip audio series.
Listen up! Part one is right here:
Five minutes to a life less martyred. What to say, and how to say it. Just click PLAY:
Do you know someone who’s stuck in the mouse wheel of martyrdom? Spread the love with her by sharing the audio. All you need to do is click “like” or “share.”
There’s more where that came from too. Tomorrow: Creating clean, happy and healthy boundaries – with your family.
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