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Do you suffer from public speaking nerves, stress and anxiety?
Does it mean you dread giving presentations, and can’t sleep the night before a talk?
I’m here to help you unlock genuine confidence so you can relax, own the stage, speak powerfully, and captivate your audiences.
I’m here to help you develop your power and leadership, and inspire and lead every time you speak.
My clients joyfully report an increase in confidence of more than 60%.
“After working with Tricia, nothing is holding me back. There are no limits, and I control where I go from here. I’m confident, self-assured, and at ease with who I am.” Taryn Brumfitt, Founder Body Image Movement
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I hear myself say this again and again to my clients. Again and again during my workshops. Again and again to myself when I’m about to push through what had been an upper limit.
There’s been a lot of this, again and again, particularly in the past week or so.
To own it, as a powerful public speaker and a woman who claims her worth and asks for what she wants, it’s time for you to let go of all the reasons why you can’t or shouldn’t stand up in front of a group of people and say what’s yours to say.
It might feel like there’s a gaping hole. So, replace the can’ts and shoulds with these essentials to embrace on your quest to owning it as a speaker:
• You have gifts and talents
• Sharing your gifts and talents is the best way to connect with your purpose
• There are audiences who want to hear from you and will benefit from what you have to say
• Your vulnerability is powerful. Your stories matter. You matter. You are enough
I want to share with you an excerpt from my book, Own It, that illustrates my point the best way I know how: with a story.
“I’ve been privileged to work with several Australian Olympians in my workshops. All strong women who mean business, the workshop participants—and I!—were in awe of their stories, experiences, commitment, and achievements, and sat utterly captivated as they shared them.
I haven’t forgotten one Olympian’s comments when she stood up to walk to the front of the room to give her presentation. She was immediately following one of the other women, and had been touched by her words, and said, “I can’t possibly talk after that”.
I asked the group, “At what point are you enough? If an Olympic medal won’t do it, what will”?
There comes a moment when you make a choice, regardless of your circumstances, to claim your worth. How about making that moment right now? If you’re still saying to yourself “Who am I to…?” then try asking yourself “Who am I not to…?”
Knowing, accepting and embodying that you’re enough is where confidence flourishes and blossoms. In the space that’s been freed by airing your fears and worries, you can make a new commitment by giving yourself permission to create what you want.”
Give yourself permission. You’re more than enough. You don’t need another qualification, to lose 5 more kgs, or wait until the new year to make another resolution.
Your time is now. The world needs your intelligence, wisdom and expertise. The world needs your message and stories that only you can share in your unique way.
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It’s a presenter’s worst nightmare.
The person in the front row falling asleep. And snoring loudly.
The two women chatting and giggling and distracting everyone else.
The heckler who calls out.
The woman who keeps interrupting and asks too many questions.
You’re standing up the front speaking. You’re meant to be able to command the room. It’s falling apart around you.
Raise your voice or clap your hands to try to get the attention of the snorer. Even if that person doesn’t wake up, it’s likely that someone sitting nearby will get the cue and help you out by tapping the sleeper on the shoulder.
Use eye contact to hone in on the women talking and annoying everyone else. Eye contact will show that you want their attention, and it will instantly shut them up and draw them in to what you’re saying.
It’s a great way to get people engaged.
You can try pausing too. That works a treat.
As for a heckler, you can ask, “What makes you feel that?”
It puts the onus back on the heckler and forces her/him to come up with something to say. It works wonders, and usually diffuses the flame, quick smart.
Note the language: Say “What” instead of “Why” and “feel” instead of “think.”
The right words in the right sequence are powerful.
The woman who keeps interrupting and asks too many questions is enough to drive you completely mad.
Tell her that there’ll be time for questions after, and you have to keep going. Tell her again if you need to.
And to alleviate those sorts of problems, it’s also useful to tell your audience up front how it’s going to work. You might tell them to take a note of any questions they have and save them for the end, when there’ll be question time.
You’re in charge. It’s your presentation and your stage. You make the rules. Tell your audience how it’s going to work. They’re relying on you.
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She was there to talk about a school holiday sports program. She gave her spiel, then the kids were asked if they had any questions.
In a room of about 160 kids, I reckon at least 40 shot up a hand. They couldn’t wait to ask their question, and some kept pushing their hand even higher into the air, as if to say pick me, pick me. Because that’s what kids do.
Many of the questions repeated, and some had been answered when the speaker first gave her spiel, but no-one said anything about that, nor laughed.
These kids had questions and they wanted them answered. Some just wanted to make a comment too, like about the sports program their friend had been to in the last school holidays.
Later that day, I ran a free preview teleclass for my workshop program How To Ask For What You Want.
At the end, I opened up the lines for questions. Guess what? There were none.
I marvelled at the difference between those kids, who are so curious and eager to be involved, and so many of us adults who hold ourselves back.
We do it because we think there is such a thing as a stupid question.
We do it because we think that we should know the answer and if we ask, we’ll expose ourselves as stupid.
We do it because deep down, we think we’re frauds.
We do it, and then we waste so much time trying to figure out things ourselves that could so easily be dealt with by simply asking a question.
Leaders ask. They ask the most questions. They ask for what they want too.
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