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Do you suffer from public speaking nerves, stress and anxiety?
Does it mean you dread giving presentations, and can’t sleep the night before a talk?
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I’m here to help you develop your power and leadership, and inspire and lead every time you speak.
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“After working with Tricia, nothing is holding me back. There are no limits, and I control where I go from here. I’m confident, self-assured, and at ease with who I am.” Taryn Brumfitt, Founder Body Image Movement
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One of the youngest children always does the Kaurna welcome, to recognise that we sit on the land of the Kaurna Aboriginal people.
This time a little boy proudly walked to the front of the room, took the microphone in his hand, and started to speak the welcome with enthusiasm and heart.
When he arrived at the second sentence, he giggled with enjoyment.
Then he started the third and all of a sudden handed back the microphone to a teacher and walked back to where the rest of his class was sitting, saying, “I don’t want to do this anymore.”
Us parents sitting at the back smiled adoringly, enjoying his honesty. And the kids? They all cracked up laughing.
So there was this little boy, sitting back down on the floor next to his teacher, and 11 classes of kids were laughing at him.
I thought to myself, this is where it starts. This is where the fear, the hesitation, the holding back begins.
This is a moment that could potentially turn a confident little boy into one who doesn’t want to stand up in front of a group again because people might laugh at him. This is a moment that could potentially be etched in his heart for the rest of his life.
It’s a story so many of us carry deep down, amongst our fears and beliefs, and it’s why so many women don’t want to stand up and speak.
By a certain age, those beliefs and habits start to be in charge.
It’s why all the speaking skills and techniques, on their own, won’t make you a powerful speaker.
You need to start working from the inside out. You need to unlock and shine a torch on what’s been lurking in the dark and holding you back.
Only then, once you shift past it, is there space for your powerful voice to rise to the surface. Only then can you can blow away your audiences with your intelligence and wisdom, and own the stage, girl.
For the record, the teacher who took the microphone from the little boy did tell the kids that it’s not cool to laugh. He said that that little boy had done a wonderful job speaking the Kaurna welcome, and he deserved appreciation for his efforts. He’s right, of course.
And it was too late.
We’re a self-centered lot when it comes to public speaking and presenting.
We worry that our audiences won’t take us seriously if we make a mistake. We freak out that we’ll forget what we’d planned to say. We panic that people will think we’re frauds.
It’s a wonky focus that’s responsible for holding back so many women from putting themselves out there, standing up and speaking, and doing a marvellous job.
Owning the stage is not about you.
Back in my early media days, brimming with self-consciousness and desperately wanting to do a good job and be taken seriously, making it all about me meant I put enormous pressure on myself.
In my first journo job straight out of uni, I worked in the newsroom at a commercial radio station. On-air gaffe number one saw me mockingly referred to in the newspaper the next day for saying something incorrect about the government and bondage, I think it was, if I remember correctly (the attention was so embarrassing I blocked it from my memory).
A few years later, while reading a radio news bulletin, I spoke about the beautification – not beatification – of Mary McKillop. Being made more beautiful has nothing to do with being beatified. Again, that blunder made it to the newspaper, and I was horrified.
It’s taken me many, many years to realise that it’s not all about me.
I repeat, owning the stage is not about you either.
Powerful speakers are generous. They focus on give, give, giving.
When they create and structure their talks, their number one concern is how they can help their audiences.
And when they speak, they do so in service.
The best part of all this is that it’s a win-win.
Your audiences are blessed by your expertise, intelligence and wisdom delivered straight from your heart. It’s what makes you magnetic.
And for you, as a speaker, it’s an enormous relief when you realise – and own – that it’s not all about you.
Shift focus, put your audiences first, and take a deep breath out. Feel your shoulders relax, be an offering to the highest benefit of everyone who’s fortunate enough to hear what you have to say. Then speak powerfully.
Remember, it’s not about you.
If I asked you to stand up in a room full of people and tell me why you’re qualified to take your place on the stage, what would you do?
1. Shrink in your seat and try to be invisible?
2. Wait for someone else to go first?
3. Make sure you’re the first one to get up, speak and be noticed?
If 3 describes you, there’s no need to read on. Stick with owning it, girl. You’re doing a great job! Thank you.
If 1 or 2 fit like a glove, please, stay with me. You need this. And so do your audiences.
Too often, women tell me:
They also tell me:
Here’s the thing. If you’re still heavily invested in holding yourself back, it’s impacting plenty of other people, not just you.
It’s something you need to consider and define.
Take a few moments to write it down. It’s costing your potential, career, sense of self-worth, and pay packet. I guarantee it.
Women who put themselves out there, stand up and speak, and use their voices to ask for what they want, too, are racing towards the stars.
If that exercise isn’t enough to kick you into gear, I want you to consider a prompt I’ve used when I’ve needed to push one of my upper limits:
You have power, and it lies in owning your value and using it in whatever context is yours to use it.
You might not be a brain surgeon or a purveyor of world peace. The expertise you do have though, and your message, are dearly needed.
When you know your message, and the ideal audience to hear it, your power in owning it, standing up and speaking will help others to be powerful too.
The time has come. The world needs more women to stand up and speak.
What will you say?
No more excuses.